it might be the Audi.

You poor thing.

It could actually be your driving.

Stop at the damn stop sign. It's called "traffic law" not "traffic optional".

I’m also a woman and an ethnic minority and this has never been a problem for me ?

I have no idea what you’re trying to say. Are you saying that only you know the right way to do it? Or is it that everyone else is wrong and they’re upset with you because you’re a woman of colour? Neither of those things are plausible, and chances are good that if you’re getting a lot of people angry with you at 4-way stops, it’s because you’re doing something wrong.

That sucks . Sorry to hear

I always take back streets during rush hour and avoid busy areas.
Of all the 4 way stops I encounter maybe 10% of the time everyone knows what to do.
Just 30 minutes ago I rolled up to a 4 way with 2 cars beating me there by at least 5 seconds. No one moves..they're both looking at me...so I went. Looked in the mirror and it took another 5 seconds for them to decide who should go.