You're probably too nice, and/or they're just using you for free dinners and some fun while hoping for the taller,richer, better looking guy to come along. Or the bad boy, who can make them feel the tingles of being a challenge to tame him.

If this is a common issue for you, then you’re asking the wrong people why. Very likely it’s entirely because of what you’re choosing to do yourself. Are you being completely honest up front with the people you’re dating, or are you passing yourself off as someone who’s okay with being casual when you’re really not? Are you choosing partners because they’re sexually appealing to you but you haven’t even bothered to find out what they want or who they are as people? Obviously what you’re doing now isn’t working for you, so I’d suggest that you stop dating completely, take a giant step back, and figure out what you’re doing wrong.

1. Be upfront about what you want when you first agree to meet. Make sure you have similar intentions.

2. Go out and not to each other's homes for at least several dates. Take the time to get to know each other.

Oh no, not the “nice guy” trope again. The myth that women only want bad guys and the only reason why a man isn’t getting what he wants is because he’s “too nice”. It’s just garbage.

@@OK OP

But women do like bad boys, until they get over it and need more stability in their lives. Evolutionary biology explains why bad boys can be so compelling. Research shows women are more attracted to confidant or brash, masculine men during the middle of their menstrual cycle, when they’re most fertile. Men with very confidant masculine traits may have better quality genes, so it could be attractive to women on an unconscious evolutionary level.

After a child is born, the bad boy will become undesirable, as the woman seeks a stable home to raise a child, and the more mild-mannered person could step in to raise the child.

Wow nice problem

This is your opinion. It doesn’t make it fact. It seems to be a typical issue for men who would rather listen to other men talking about what women want, than to the women themselves. Or, if they do listen to women, they decide that they don’t like what they’re hearing so they choose to tell those women that they’re wrong, and will then quote a bunch of “statistics” that will only support their own narrative. So the dilemma will continue until such time as men have the courage to take a seat, close their mouths, open their ears and minds, and truly hear what women are trying to tell them.

Who cares, I’d much rather have sex with different beautiful women then go through the heartache of a serious committed relationship. Whatever floats your boat. You do you, I do me. Period.